Thursday, June 08, 2006

Go me, it's not my birthday...

I GOT THE MOTHERFUCKING JOB!!!! WOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOO!! I start on the 19th which is cool I guess, but I was hoping to start this coming Monday. Oh well, beggars can't be choosers, right?
A few of you asked how old the psycho grandmother is from the last post.....she's 67. I seriously hope that when I'm 67 I have enough integrity not to have to threaten to beat up a 28 y/o woman. HAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA, sorry couldn't help it.
I had lunch with Ethan today and I now have a headache. I suppose a lunchroom full of screaming kids will do that to ya, huh?
To bring up a somewhat serious topic; I was wondering how much freedom you feel a child should have? I noticed a few children, 2nd graders, who had their hair permed, dyed, cut into a mohawk, and a few boys with their ears pierced. I personally would not let Ethan do any of those things at his age. Not because I don't want him to be able to have the freedom of expression, but because he needs to have boundaries set by a parent. I believe that all children need to have choices they can make on their own, but it's up to me to give them the options to choose from. Otherwise there will be a huge lack of discipline and respect for the word of the parents. That's just my thoughts but I'd like some of yours too.
I hung out with the Nice Guy last night. Things were going well until he kissed me. That's when I felt like I wanted to vomit. Not a very good sign, eh? Why can't I be physically attracted to the nice guys too, dammit?!?!? My fucking luck.
Deep Throat of the Day: Why do my boobs have to hurt EVERY FUCKING MONTH? I hate PMS!


Bill said...

I wonder if part of the choices are parents trying to express themselves through their children... Of course they may not know how to say "no". Freedom? None, be the Gestapo... just kidding. Each parent, or set of parents, has to find their own comfort level for boundries. Everyone has different tolerance levels with different triggers. I am completely against tantrums in public places. If I am with a child who acts up like that in public, its time to go. Unless that is what they are trying to accomplish.

As for vomiting... don't do it while kissing him. Sorry that it wasn't what you hoped for... what was it? Bad Breath? Tongue too active?

NWJR said...

Right back atcha on the parenting thing! You're so right. I'm convinced that kids need their parents to be their PARENTS, not their best buddies. They can always find friends, but they only get one set of parents.

But kids are reasonably well-adjusted and terminally normal, so WTF do I know?


mojotek said...

Congratulations on the job! I know how much it sucks not to know.

And it's a tough thing trying to figure out where the boundaries are with your child. I guess the exact place you put the boundaries probably isn't as important (within reason of course) as enforcing the boundaries you do set. My parents had some things they wouldn't ever budge on... of course I hated it then, but I'm definitely glad they went that route. They also had things they were a lot more forgiving about, but they were always that way with them. I guess I turned out ok, but there's always plenty of time for me to go psycho.

The Soviet said...

Two things:

1) I like the new profile picture. It's hott.

2) What happened with the kiss? Did he not kiss well? Because that usually makes me want to vomit.

Kira said...

If there's no chemistry, there's no chemistry. It doesn't mean you can't be attracted to nice guys; it just means you need a super nice guy with a bastard streak in him like Alex...or you need a different SORT of nice guy. Chemistry can't be forced.

Ariana is smart beyond her years, but I still wouldn't feel that was reason enough to let her do what she wanted with her own body. The fact is, she's still just eight. As she gets older, I'll allow her to do more and more every year to herself as she individualizes who she is, but only when she's old enough to do it because she KNOWS who she is...not young enough to do it because everybody else is.

My boobs hurt during PMS every month too. Freaks me out every month...even though I know it's coming...because boob soreness was also the first signs of my pregnancies ;)

The Lily said...


Well, don't know about dyeing or piercing until the high school years until they really need the outlet. Honestly, I don't know at all.

But just the same, it seems that second grade is too little to be anything but a kid and awkward, at that.

As for mr. nice, don't put too much pressure on yourself to start something. Now you should be focusing on you.

fyrchk said...

1. Rock on with your bad self. I knew you could do it!

2. You'll still be kickin' ass at 67.

3. I have a headache just thinking about a lunchroom full of screaming children.

4. I agree with you on the freedom for children thing. There aren't enough parents setting boundaries and you see where kids are heading. Right into trouble. Trouble I say.

5. Did he have bad breath? Was that it?

Deep Throat: I'll make 'em feel better.

Rumblin Durango said...

I'm so sad for you, about the kissing thing. Did I tell you I do that best of all? Well, predicting Superbowl winners is first, then kissing.

Anyway, kids and freedom. I think kids, based on how they are raised by Mom and Dad, usually have their own idea of "freedom". I don't think my girls are gonna be psychos, because I think I raised them right (isn't that what they ALL think?). Yet, at the same time, I would like to think they believe they feel free to do what they want to do. As long as what they want to do is within the parameters of what I want them to do. :) Getting that into their subconscious, that's the trick. Yer doing fine from what I've read about Ethan.

Love the new pic. I want more. You cut me off. Cut me back in. "Cut me Mick... do it."

~ Mr Durango himself,

Rick (you should hear the truck, I sound like such the teenager driving around town now).

PS - Where's the new job?

Rumblin Durango said...

... oh and...

What fyrchk said..... I'm, uhm... what's that phrase, where you have no speech? Where you can't talk? Words just refuse to come out of your mouth? Speechless? Yeah, that's it.

"Can you hear the words that are coming out of my MOUTH?!?" hehehe

schmims said...

I'm with you on the parenting thing. Some of my players get their hair highlighted already and some were doing it in 4th grade. FOURTH GRADE! They're kids! And if my son wants his ear pierced, he'll have to be old enough to drive himself to go get it done.

jali said...

When my son was about 5 or 6 he loved the group Onyx. (at the time most cool AA dudes were wearing hightop fades)

Onyx shaved their heads and my son begged me to let the barber shave his.

I agreed and my kid was the happiest and proudest little one going to school that Monday.

My ex husband was truly pissed with me though - which kind of made it all worth it! No really - my little one's happiness made it worth it to me.

If Mr.Cute Guy makes you sick - run as fast as you can - it won't get better.

Macca said...

Congrats on the new job!!!

Nice new profile pic too, ya hottie.

My parents wouldn't let me get anything pierced till I was 18. I got my ear pierced the day after my birthday.

Randi said...

Congratulations on the job! Don't feel bad about the kiss w/ the nice guy. Sometimes nice guys are just that, nice guys. Doesn't mean you have to have chemistry (that can't be forced!) with them.

nicole said...

Go April, it's your burfday!! Congrats on your new job! ;)

I'm definitely not down with the idea of a second grade mohawk. Not that I have a second grader but when I do a mohawk is NOT in his future.

Sassy One said...

Congratulations on getting the job!!

I see a lot of kids who are allowed to dye their hair or do crazy stuff to it. I think a parent has to draw the line somewhere, but still encourage their kids to be individuals and build their self confidence. We have older kids at school with thier noses and belly buttons peirced already (olderst they are are 13). I dont agree with that at all. Hair can be changed back, re-dyed. Its only hair. But holes in your body..too far for this age! A child has to have clear limits and know what they are.

MrGoodShot said...

Well, it's been quite a while since you and I spoke. And it's also been longer since I checked out your blog, but something this morning took me by the hand and led me to your page. As always, you amuse me and make me wish we lived closer so we could grace each other with humor and intelligent (and sometimes not-so-much) conversation. You're always so descriptive and so sassy.
You know very well that I can relate to much of what's happening in your life. Been there, done that, - accidentally, on purpose bleached the T-shirt. You weren't physically present to witness the turmoil that started to slowly pick apart everything that I was.. you were there in spirit and on the other end of the phone, where you were... well, you. Maybe you don't know this, but you made me smile when I wanted to disappear into the darkness somewhere for solitude, then emerge again when I felt I had enough courage and energy to push forward. You're an awesome person. You and I a brave people - Don't ever forget that.

-And on a sidenote- If you and I kissed, I'd lay down my life to wager that you wouldn't want to vomit. :)

Who am I, April? I think you know, but if you don't, you need only go here:

jadedprimadonna said...

My two are 16 and 13 now. I've let Anna (the oldest) get highlights in her hair, but she isn't allowed to get a belly button ring. According to her, she's the only girl her age in the entire country... no, wait - the entire world!... who does not have a belly button ring. I don't care. I know how much work it is to take care of a body piercing, plus I know how much it hurts. When she's 18, okay. But until then, NO. Matthew's hair is a little longer than I like it to be right now, but that's about as much freedom as he's getting for the moment. I do let them pick their own music - but I make sure I listen to it too so I know what it's about. I probably give them a little more freedom that a lot of these hardcore control freak parents around here; but then, my kids aren't popping pills or smoking weed, so they deserve some freedom for being responsible.

It's a tough call, and I do think it depends on the kid and the situation. A lot of parenting seems to be going on your instincts.

Chemistry... you gotta have it. =o(

Amanda said...

Wait! You found a nice guy! I've been looking for one of those FOREVER!

Chemistry is important, and for whatever reason, most nice guys just don't inspire a hawt, chemical connection.

Congrats on the job!!