Monday, May 14, 2007

Lesbian

Last week I got a phone call from the Assistant Principal (AP) of Ethan's school. He told me that Ethan got a referral because after he heard one girl tell another girl that she loved her, he told her that means she's a lesbian. Now, back when Ethan asked me what a lesbian was I explained it him like this; "You know how Mommy is a girl and Daddy is a boy? Well a lesbian is when a girl loves another girl the same way that Mommy loves Daddy." (this was when him and I actually loved each other) Anyway, he was satisfied with that answer and I can't think of a better way to explain it to him.

Well the AP wasn't happy with Ethan saying that, and I certainly understand. However, I do not think the offense was punishable with an hour detention in the AP's office. I believe that by giving him a referral and detention, it's the school making homosexuality a bad thing. This is not what I'm teaching my son. I teach him that we're all God's creatures, we all bleed the same, and we all have feelings. Regardless of our sexual orientation, skin color, or religious beliefs, we're all equal.

No, I don't think that Ethan should have told the girl she was a lesbian but it's not like he called her a bitch, slut or cunt. He called her what he did because of how I explained what a lesbian is to him. Which I've had to further explain that there are different kinds of love and girls can love other girls as friends and not be lesbians.

So I told the AP that I don't think that Ethan should have to sit in detention, he should just have to be verbally reprimanded and have what a lesbian is further explained to him. His response to me was, "Ethan calling people a lesbian in this school is NOT ACCEPTABLE and the girls were VERY upset. His punishment fits the crime." This jackass is so lucky I was at work when him and I were on the phone because I would've ripped him a new asshole. Crime? I know the definition of a crime and it's certainly not what his is.

Another reason why I've gotta get out of this ignorant ass town. Dumb fuckers.

Deep Throat of the Day: Yo estoy muy consada.

17 comments:

Randi said...

Nice to know that they're teaching kids to be homophobic at an early age.

jsull said...

that about right
i'd betcha 1000000 to 1 hes a democrat
be very careful how you vote.
Idiocrats say the damdest most idiotic things!!!
js

Judy B said...

What's yo estoy muy consada mean?

And maybe you should ask the school board why your son's principal isn't tolerant of lesbians.

J R Estelle said...

Wooooo.....I could go on and on and on about this. At least when Ethan asked you what a lesbian was you took the time to explain it to him in a healthy way, as a responsible parents. I really think that young kids don't understand all that being a lesbian entails and if those girls were that upset...then someone, more than likely has filled their heads with the idea that being homosexual (or "different in general), is wrong. Shame. KUDOS to you...and that AP can BLOW this lesbian.

KBear said...

what a fucker.

no, he didnt deserve dentention.. a stern talking to maybe, to know that you don't just go around calling people lesbians. and youre right.. further explanation.. but dentention? no

sure, the girls were upset, but that was probably because maybe their parents make it a bad thing.. you never know.

come live in canada :) we could meet then:D

Coley said...

Holy crap, April! He wasn't name calling, he was sharing information as it had been presented to him. Shit, I wish more people would teach their kids about homosexuality without any stigma. You are an awesome mom, and that Asst. Principal needs to get bitchslapped.

Amanda said...

So, what happens if you call the AP an ignorant, homophobic hick?You handled that situation perfectly.

Kira said...

You didn't do anything wrong with your original explanation. That's how I explained it to Ariana, who asked a while back. I DID follow it up with, "although there's nothing wrong with a woman loving a woman or a man loving a man, many people feel that there is. Your mother feels that however two consenting adults decide to love is a good thing. Hate is bad; love is good." Fortunately, her dad backed me up on that too as he believes the same thing, so we were set.

So if the girls were upset because they were called gifted because they didn't realize that it referred to a high IQ and thought instead that it meant they were riding the short bus, would he have gotten detention too? Ethan can't help how the girls reacted to a word that is neither positive nor negative. The man's a moron.

The Lily said...

It's a tough situation when you have a kid that is facing such an uphill battle with ignorance.

You did the best you could, you did great in fact, you just can't control how others are going to react.

Moxy Rocks said...

I agree with Judy, whats the AP's problem with lesbians?

Christie said...

ugh

mikey said...

Obviously, the AP is an idiot.

The Soviet said...

two things:

1) i think it's almost cute that ethan said that! he wanted to share his knowledge with the world. go ethan.

2) the principal is obviously a freak. and potentially homo. because if he was *actually* straight, he'd encourage the two girls to grow up, truly be lesbians, and then make out with one another.

Anonymous said...

It would be a lot funnier if he did call them sluts or cunts.

mojotek said...

Hmmm... I was thinking you were gonna go with "When mommy loves another girl as much as she loves daddy..." But maybe that's just because I watch too much porn and that's how all the plot lines go.

Anywho, he actually didn't do anything wrong except for being ignorant of what was acceptable in school. He was applying a literal interpretation of the word lesbian to something in "real life". The AP needs to get his panties out of his ass crack.

Randi said...

Someone must be in lurve to neglect her blog for so long...
xoxo

Greg said...

Dumb fuckers, indeed.