The meeting with the principal didn't go as well as I had anticipated it to. Actually, I think it sucked. Period. I walked into her office, sat down, and she asked me to tell her what's going on. I told her that Ethan's been coming home, pretty much on a daily basis, upset about the kids in his class picking on him. I explained that they're cursing at him in Spanish, they're hitting him, they're making fun of him, and they're telling lies to the teacher just to get him in trouble. I then told her that he's absolutely miserable in this class because he doesn't have a single friend. I explained how ostracized he feels and that it's not healthy for him because he's the kind of kid that thrives on friendships. I told her that it's affecting his classwork and it's affecting him at home. And then I requested that she switch his class. After saying all of that to her, here's what she started with: (my percentages may be slightly off)
"This school is very diverse. We have 57% Hispanic children, 18% Asian, 11% Middle Eastern, 8% White, and 6% African American. All of the classes are a mixture of different races. So switching his class isn't going to put him in a less diverse class."
I was sitting there wondering why the fuck she was telling me the percentages of the different races until she said that switching his class isn't going to put him in a less diverse class. I immediately chimed in and told her that the diversity of the class isn't the problem. I told her that I didn't know what it is I said that would make her think that, but I have no problems with the children of other races. I have a problem with the children in Ethan's class who are relentlessly picking on him. She was like, "Oh, OK."
The rest of the conversation pretty much left me feeling like she didn't believe a word that I was saying. That in her mind, these kids aren't doing those things Ethan's claiming. She also made me feel, based on what she was saying, that Ethan is the problem because these kids don't act that way.
Now, if Ethan was the problem, I would do everything I could to help correct it. But prior to coming to this school, Ethan's NEVER had any problems with kids like he's having now. Sure there'd be the occasional spat here and there, but nothing serious at all. Of course, he'd have kids who sometimes joke around with him and Ethan couldn't take the joke. But again, nothing serious. Never has it ever been like this. I am not the type of mother who blames everyone else for what problems her kid may have. But I know when something's wrong, and this time is one of them.
I told her the teacher told me that this is the worst class she's had in her 10 years of teaching. That the kids are very disrespectful. I tried and tried to say everything I could to convince her to switch his class, but the bottom line was that she's not going to switch his class because "she doesn't do that." Instead, ETHAN is going to see the counselor and she's going to have a talk with ETHAN. I asked her about the kids who are being mean to Ethan and she said, "If I find out that the kids are in fact doing the things that Ethan claims, they'll be dealt with accordingly."
I don't understand what happened in that meeting, but whatever it was, I'm not satisfied. At this point, all I can do is keep talking to Ethan and hope that the meetings with the guidance counselor will teach him how to handle the kids being mean to him in a better way.
Deep Throat of the Day: Am I a racist because I said the kids were cursing at him in Spanish?