Early last week I came home on my lunch break. When I passed the house that's 2 houses down from ours, I noticed the 2 y/o boy that lives there was standing in his driveway all by himself. There are a total of 3 kids living there, him being the youngest, and it's very normal to see the kids outside playing. So at first I didn't think anything of it. Then he started walking down the sidewalk toward my house. I figured that his mother or sisters would be coming to get him any minute. So I went inside and started making a sandwich. I heard the boy start crying and I looked out the window and I saw him now standing in the street with no one coming to get him.
I darted out the door to scoop him up and bring him home. I got about 3/4 of the way there when his mother realized he was in the street and came running to get him. She thanked me for coming to help and then started making many excuses as to how this could happen, to not sound like a bad mom. I reassured her that I completely understood and that kids are quick. Things like this happen. It's also the first time, since I've lived there, I've ever seen the child outside without anyone watching him.
Fast forward a few days. Joe's outside talking to her and her husband. She mentions the situation and how nice it was of me to come help. Also during that conversation, Joe mentioned that last weekend he watched our other neighbor's two daughters, since I had to work. She looked at him and said, "No offense, but I would NEVER let you watch my kids. Then again, I wouldn't let any man watch my kids. I wouldn't even let him (pointing to her husband) watch them if he wasn't their father." Joe was offended for several reasons and I don't blame him.
I think it's ignorant for a woman to have the mentality that men are incapable of watching children. I was raised by a man and so was Joe. I think we both turned out just fine.
Joe has lived there for quite some time and said that it's not the first time he's noticed that boy outside without supervision. That made him want to reply to her with, "At least I wouldn't let your kid be wandering in the streets alone." But he didn't because he's a nice guy like that.
The next day we saw the boy in their driveway, alone, again. We were leaving the house rather than coming home, so who knows how long he was outside unsupervised. But the point of the story is a woman thinking a man is incapable of watching children. I've met *plenty* of women I'd never trust with my son.
I believe it's on a person to person basis, regardless of gender, when it comes to deciding who you can and cannot trust watching your children. What are your thoughts on that?
Congratulations to Randi
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