Lately I've been reading the writings from many different Feminists I've found across the web. I wanted to see if many of them shared the same view points that I disagree with or if it was the select few that I read daily who have these views. What I found is that most of them all wrote along the same lines as each other and shared the same views. And I've determined that I could never be a feminist. Here's why: (This is not a personal attack against anyone or Feminists, just a list of why *I* couldn't identify as a Feminist.)
I would never want leave my house if I walked around with the mentality that "every man is a potential rapist".
I would never want to leave my house because I'd get really pissed at any man who checked me out. How dare you check me out! I'm not a sexual object!!!
I would have a hard time shopping because too many stores objectify women in their ads and I wouldn't want to support that store by giving them my money.
I would never again want to watch movies (especially Disney) or television, read blogs, join Facebook, Twitter, etc. if I found racism, sexism, rape culture, transism, misogynistic comments, and violence in EVERYTHING regardless of how far-fetched it seemed to others. Unless of course the movies, t.v. shows, blogs, Facebook pages, and Tweets were by others who thought like me.
I would have to ignore how far our country has come with civil and women's rights and act like we're still living in the 1950's.
I would feel like everyone's a racist in the United States.
I would diminish the accomplishments of caucasians by saying their accomplishments were achieved due to the privilege they were born with.
I would discount the accomplishments of minorities by saying they're the exceptions to their under-privilege.
I would hate myself for identifying with the gender I was born with, even though I called myself a feminist. Yet I'd somehow still be proud to be a woman.
I would fight for everyone's equality while still labeling and categorizing everyone.
I would feel guilty for wanting to find a man to share my life with and I wouldn't know which desire I wanted more; to be a strong independent woman or find someone to love because I'm not quite sure I can do both.
I'd feel even more guilty if I DID choose to find love. I'd love to cook and clean for him because even though it makes ME feel good to do those things, that's just going against the Feminist Movement.
And what if he wanted me to have babies? I wouldn't know what to do! Should I be mad at him for thinking that just because I'm a woman and have uterus, I want to have babies? Or should I accept that a wonderful part of being a woman is that I can have babies?
Say I chose to have a baby. I wouldn't know what to do when it came to making a choice between being a working mom or a stay at home mom. I mean, the differing views Feminists have on this would just boggle my mind. I don't think I'd be right with either decision.
Sheew! Life would be confusing.
Deep Throat of the Day: Is there anything in between?